Feb. 2 - David Mabry - Marriage is Purposeful
Updated: Feb 6
This is the time of year when everything you see is pink and red and covered in hearts. February is the month of love! So what better month for Newstart to focus on marriage? On Sunday, David Mabry kicked us off with these parables from Jesus:
Matthew 13:44 The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field. When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.
Matthew 13:45-46 Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls. When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it.
David said, like the treasure and the pearl, marriage is precious and valuable. Upon finding the person you want to marry, you should give up everything else to possess it. A commitment can be defined as a choice to eliminate all other choices. That's how we should approach marriage. When God brings that precious treasure into your life, fight for it as your most prized possession, just like the men who sold all they had for the treasure and the pearl.
Like everything else outside of Heaven, marriage is not perfect, but it can be treated differently than all other relationships. Hebrews 13:4 starts out by saying, “Let marriage be held in honor among all…” As Christians, we can honor our marriages and the marriages around us at each of the following levels:
Community – No matter the audience, speak well of marriage and encourage fidelity.
Church family – Live out the good news of Jesus by pouring into marriages at all stages (premarital, remarriages, crisis, and enrichment).
Immediate Family - Share the stories with your children, siblings, aunts, uncles, parents and grandparents. Celebrate one another’s milestones and speak value into one another’s marriages.
Individual couples - Work at your marriage, speak about it, protect it. Hold it as the most important relationship without neglecting other loved ones.
Individuals- Fight selfishness and individualism. Embrace sacrificial love
The complete verse in Hebrews goes like this:
Hebrews 13:4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
We’re all broken, selfish people, so honoring our spouse daily could be a tough goal to strive for. So how do we honor our spouse and remain faithful?
Live like the man who sold all he owned to buy the field with the treasure. Sell all your lust for other things (porn, shopping, hurtful habits, self actualization)
Live like the man who left his other 99 sheep to find the one who strayed (Luke 15:4) Leave the 99 other things that will be fine without you, but you won’t be ok if you don't pursue your lost lamb.
Live like the woman who burned her precious oil by lighting her lamp to find her lost coin (Luke 15:8-10) Light the lamp- spend money, time, and energy on your marriage! This is an act of faithfulness and keeping the "marriage bed pure."
Live like the father who threw a celebration when his prodigal son returned (Luke 15:11-32) Run, embrace, and kill that fatted calf! When things inevitably go sideways, fight for you marriage. Give grace and celebrate when you two have overcome the points of crisis and pain!
David tells us marriage is valuable, precious, purposeful, redeemable, a partnership, and is worth the fight. Invest in your marriage by seeking out the services of Newstart’s marriage ministry. We have trained couples who will walk beside you through all stages of your marriage, including premarital, crisis, enrichment, and families in a remarriage.
Throughout the year, there are life groups, workshops, retreats, and events that will help you to feed into the life of your marriage. Join us for our next event on Date Night in the Newstart Café on February 29 from 7:00 – 8:30! Register in the lobby or online.