Jan. 19 - Nate Porter - Sinking Fear, Part 3 - Fear of Missing Out
FOMO or “fear of missing out” is a common phrase in today’s culture, but it’s not a new concept at all. Going all the way back to Eve eating the forbidden fruit because she was afraid of what she might be missing, this feeling is something most people can relate to. It plays on the “what ifs” that tend to run through our head.
“What if I don’t get invited to the slumber party?”
“What if I can’t afford to put my kids in the expensive preschool?”
“What if my friends all get married before I do?”
These concerns can show us who we really are and where our priorities lie. God tells us to be wise with our finances, but our coworkers all have really nice, expensive houses. Which one do we take into consideration when we’re deciding where to live? This man is a Christian and treats you according to Scripture, but this guy has tight abs, a great job, and impresses your friends. Which one should you date? As you’re making your choices this week, ask yourself, “Do you allow your life to be managed by the opinions of others or by the Father who created you?“
Take a look at these two ladies who sidestep God and let their fears dictate their movements:
Genesis 19:30-36 Lot and his two daughters left Zoar and settled in the mountains, for he was afraid to stay in Zoar. He and his two daughters lived in a cave. One day the older daughter said to the younger, “Our father is old, and there is no man around here to give us children—as is the custom all over the earth. Let’s get our father to drink wine and then sleep with him and preserve our family line through our father.”
That night they got their father to drink wine, and the older daughter went in and slept with him. He was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up.
The next day the older daughter said to the younger, “Last night I slept with my father. Let’s get him to drink wine again tonight, and you go in and sleep with him so we can preserve our family line through our father.” So they got their father to drink wine that night also, and the younger daughter went in and slept with him. Again he was not aware of it when she lay down or when she got up. So both of Lot’s daughters became pregnant by their father.
These women feared being old and motherless and they envisioned a future for themselves where they had children. Rather than praying to God and trusting His plan for their lives, they took matters into their own hands and….you saw what happened.
We need to see success as an objective measurement (the truth of who God says we are), rather than a subjective opinion (what other people think we should be). So how can we deal with our sadness, our insecurities, our need for approval, and our fear of missing out? Turn your eyes to Christ, consider your choices prayerfully, and remember the truth of who God created you to be.
Galatians 1:10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.