Nov 19 - Developing Your Heart for God, Part 7
For many people, the holidays are a joyful time, but for others it can be a painful reminder of broken relationships with family members. Maybe in our past a loved one has said or done something hurtful or fallen into sin and we chose to avoid the issue rather than confronting it. We see the problem hasn’t gone away yet, but tell ourselves maybe next year it will be better! This week, Greg walked us through a period of David’s life when severe brokenness was neglected when it should have been addressed and his family spiraled out of control.
In a long story which starts in 2 Samuel 13 and extends over several chapters we see that David’s son, Amnon, raped his half-sister, Tamar, bringing shame to her and destroying her future. David turned a blind eye to this event and wouldn’t address it, but his other son, Absalom, let the anger and resentment build up in him until he killed Amnon to avenge his sister. Absalom goes into exile to flee his father. Years later, he returns to seize power from David, sending him running into exile. Eventually David gathers his army and they kill his son, Absalom.
2 Samuel 18:33 The king was shaken. He went up to the room over the gateway and wept. As he went, he said: “O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you—O Absalom, my son, my son!”
Between the initial tragic event and the sad conclusion, there was a span of about eleven years. During that time, David never confronted the sin of his son, Amnon, offered consolation to his daughter, Tamar, or prayed with Absalom about his anger and desire for revenge. If he had addressed the initial issue, so much of their tragic story, and the regret and sorrow that came with it, could have been prevented.
When we experience these hard times in our lives, it feels so much easier to avoid the problem and hope it goes away, but when dealing with loved ones, we can’t ignore sin. Love confronts. Love listens. We want to be a people of restoration. Take the time to sit quietly with the Lord and pray for those who persecute you. God calls us to confront sin and restore the broken relationships in our lives.