The Good News - Impact on the Family
The past couple weeks, we’ve been exploring how the Good News of Jesus impacts different aspects of our lives. On Sunday our favorite family man, Nate Porter, walked us through how we can view our family in light of the Gospel, but he came at it from a unique angle I've never heard before: approval.
At certain points in our lives, many of us find ourselves trying to gain the approval of others, whether it’s an employer, a parent, a coach, or a social group. Nate showed us this can even happen with our kids. There are times when parents don’t always act in the best interest of their children for fear of being rejected. As parents we create rules for them to keep them safe and to “train them up in the way they should go,” as Scripture tells us in Proverbs 22:6, but when we get push-back or defiance, sometimes we cave in for fear of damaging our relationship with them.
I have fallen into this trap many times myself. I was afraid my son would choose to live with his father instead of me because I insisted he come to church. Often I would make a deal with him or just excuse him from coming altogether. But this is not what the Lord calls us to. Does God ask us to obey His word only if we feel like it? Does He excuse of from the consequences of our disobedience because He fears our rejection? Of course not!
Galatians 1:10 Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Yes, it hurts when your child rejects you. The emotion is real, but it’s not the truth. Just as God never stops calling us to account for our actions, we must continue to allow Scripture to guide our steps and let that be the example our children see every day. Like God, we continue to love. No matter how much it hurts, we can absolutely love in the midst of rejection. That’s how you can tell a family impacted by the Gospel.
The most freeing thing Nate said was that you are not responsible for the salvation of your family. That’s a decision each person must make on their own. Our responsibility is to set an example of Christ, to resemble Christ’s relationship with the church, and show them the difference the Good News has made in our life. It’s not our job to get them to heaven. God only calls us to do His will on earth. We should continue to lovingly proclaim the truth of the Good News and that’s how others will see the Gospel shaping our lives.